Feel It All: A Therapist's Guide to Reimagining Your Relationship with Sex

by Casey Tanner

A groundbreaking guide to sexuality that dispels the stale cultural attitudes about sex that leave too many feeling inadequate, and offers an expansive, attachment-based framework to free us and develop bolder, more satisfying relationships with our sexual selves.

When it comes to sex, most people feel insecure. But it's not because we're deficient; it's because we've been under-resourced and miseducated.

Certified sex therapist Casey Tanner argues that our sex lives are a microcosm of every untruth we've internalized about gender, sex, relationships, our bodies, and ourselves. Most of us were taught that healthy sexuality is only for a certain kind of person, in a certain kind of relationship, with a certain kind of body. As a result, the way we've learned how to define "good sex" is reflective of how good, worthy, and loveable we see ourselves.

Feel It All is a guide to help everyone uncover their personal misconceptions about sexuality and relationships. Tanner helps you recognize and assess your core beliefs surrounding relationships, sexuality, gender, and more; identify past trauma; find pathways to healing that work for you; and redefine sex based on knowledge and possibilities, rather than potential consequences.

Comprehensive yet accessible, informative, warm, and nonjudgmental, Feel It All provides a pathway for personal healing, creating stronger relationships, and achieving deeper intimacy.

"Casey Tanner shows us how all of us--ALL OF US!--can build a loving, secure relationship with our own sexuality. I want to live in the world they show us in these pages, a world full of healed and healing people, who claim pleasure and peace as their birthright." -- Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Come As You Are and Come Together

9780063314047, hardcover