First popularized in the 1970s, the hanky code (sometimes called “flagging”) is a convenient way to signal your sexual interests to others. Different colored handkerchiefs indicate specific sexual acts or interests, and on which side you choose to display the hanky indicates whether you prefer the top/giving/dominant role (left side) versus the bottom/receiving/submissive role (right side). Some folks wear their hanky around the neck if they switch/are versatile about their roles.

Flagging is great for spotting someone in a club, at a festival, or in a cruising spot who might share your preferences of kinks—but don’t forget to communicate, negotiate your boundaries, and get/give enthusiastic consent!

The following list is not exhaustive; below are some of the more commonly known colors.

Hanky Code Color Meanings
Left side = top/giving/dominant
Right side = bottom/receiving/submissive

Black: S&M (Sadism/Masochism)
Brown: Scat (poop play)
Gray: Bondage
Kelly Green: Sex worker/client
Light Blue: Oral sex
Light Pink: Dildos & penetrating toys
Navy Blue: Penetration/anal sex
Orange: Anything goes/nothing now
Red: Fisting
Teal: CBT (cock and ball torment)
Yellow: Water sports (piss play)
White: Hand jobs

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